I’ve never been a fan of the phrase “it is what it is.”
I know people usually mean it as a way to find peace or acceptance,
but every time I hear it, it frustrates me so much.
…Because honestly?
It feels like a cop-out.
“It is what it is” can often sound like acceptance,
but many times it’s just avoidance, dressed up to look wise.
It’s what we say when we don’t want to dig deeper,
when we don’t want to sit with conviction, take responsibility,
or admit that something needs to change.
And I think that’s dangerous.
In a world that already loves to blur the lines between right and wrong,
“it is what it is” can easily become an excuse to stay stuck.
To keep sin comfortable.
To normalise things that were never meant to be accepted.
We weren’t created for passive acceptance.
Jesus never looked at sin or brokenness and said,
“It is what it is.”
He wept.
He loved.
He corrected.
He healed.
He called people higher.
There’s a difference between surrendering something to God
and shrugging it off because it feels too uncomfortable to confront.
One leads to freedom.
The other leads to numbness.
Sometimes, God asks us to sit in the hard places,
not to accept them as unchangeable,
but to see them clearly
and invite Him into them.
When we hide behind phrases like “it is what it is”,
we stop asking what God wants to do through the situation.
We stop listening.
We stop growing.
We close the door on conviction, healing and transformation.
When the reality is we serve a God who transforms.
Who restores.
Who redeems.
Who makes beauty from ashes.
Nothing about your story, your struggle, your sin, your situation or anyone else’s is too far gone.
So, no… it’s not just “it is what it is.”
And that truth rather than acceptance, will change everything.
Many Blessings, Grace. Xx
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