To the people who say, “You can call me whenever,”
but then always leave the phone to ring out.
To those who say, “Let’s catch up soon,”
and only ever make plans if the other person reaches out first…
plans that get cancelled, followed by “Let’s reschedule”,
a sentence that never turns into a date.
To the people who promise, “I’ll always be there for you,”
but never check in, never ask how you’re really doing,
not unless you do.
I know life is busy.
I know we’re often tired, in this culture of hustle we live in.
I know we all have so many things going on.
But this isn’t about perfection or constant availability.
It’s about effort.
Intention.
Being a person of your word.
Because the lack of follow-through doesn’t cause anger.
It causes grief.
Because so many of us believe that “anytime” means anytime,
that “soon” means soon,
that “always” is more than just a word, said in passing.
So, there’s a quiet loneliness that comes with realising,
the people you thought would show up, don’t.
The people who spoke these words,
can no longer be taken at face value.
And, well that is incredibly painful.
I’ve learned some people love the idea of being there.
More than the practice of it.
They like being the safe person in theory,
but disappear when it costs them something.
And I hope you remember, needing people already takes courage.
Reaching out already feels vulnerable,
like you’re stripping down naked.
Being met with silence teaches you to stop asking,
stop sharing,
stop trusting.
And when you’re later met with,
“Why didn’t you reach out?”
well… that hurts all the more.
So here’s what I’ve learned:
Words are only as strong as the actions behind them.
Promises are meant to be kept.
Some of the most important people in your life,
will show up, even when it’s inconvenient.
Because they know presence speaks louder than words,
and unkept promises only cause pain.
Many Blessings, Grace. Xx
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